Women Abuse what do boys say about it?

Women Abuse

Women Abuse keeps rising without end

Women abuse especially in the form of violence is one monster that has been wreaking havoc in South African homes for many years. It is in many shapes and form; it can be physical: a beating, slapping, strangling, disfiguring of the body, emotional, verbal.

‘’Gender based violence (GBV) is the general term used to capture violence that occurs as a result of the normative role expectations associated with each gender, along with the unequal power in relationships between the two genders within the context of a specific society,’’ (Bloom 2008, p14).  Women abuse is so deeply rooted in our society to a point that it is normalised and no longer shocking. According to (Singh 2005: 190) women are particularly vulnerable to certain forms of victimisation such as marital violence, rape and sexual harassment. In many cases women are victimised by familiar figures in their environment such as a father, spouse, family member, friend or acquaintance (Dastile 2015:32-35; Singh 2005:190).

Who is the abuser?

What all this means is women are mostly abused by the people they trust and feel safe with. ‘’Most battered women experience shame and guilt that may be ascribed to the abuse, (Singh 2005: 190). Abused people do get psychologically scarred from the trauma of the abuse. Many factors play a role or rather have an influence on women abuse such as alcohol abuse, drugs, poverty, unemployment, depression, stress, upbringing, power assertion and etc.

Alcohol in our society is a problem, in South Africa we are a drinking society, and with drinking alcohol as a chief activity and as a source of diversion from problems such as unemployment, stress and crime. People who abuse alcohol are likely to lose control and be violent with others. It is a norm in our country for men to go drinking at the local tavern and when drunk come home and terrorise the family and wake up the next day like nothing happened. Men who abuse their families after drinking, when they do get home they erupt as volcanoes and they breathe fire in the form of violence against their wives, girlfriends, mothers and even their own children.

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